30 Days of Kink: Day 30

Well, ladies and gentlemen, we have come to the end:

Day 30: Whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to write about. And I’m going to skip writing in favor of posting one of the hottest pictures I have ever seen:

30 Days of Kink: Day 29

Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, princess, goddess, ma’am, sir)?  What is your opinion of the use of titles in general?

I don’t have a particular title, although I like playing with language and names in general. It depends on the person I am with, really.

 

30 Days of Kink: Day 28

Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play?  What significance does your attire have to you?

It really depends on my partner and the scene in general, but I love black leather, stockings, and high heels in general. Actually I love lingerie as a rule, and I do believe that you shouldn’t save the good stuff for a special occasion. Costumes can be fun too though.

Favorite colors are jewel tones and black (of course), and I’ve never met a pair of high strappy heels or boots I didn’t like. Leather pants, dresses, and latex leggings or catsuits are other favorites. And of course, I always like a pair of thigh high socks and tight little shorts too!

In regard to significance, it depends on the role. I do tend to pick out stuff with a harder edge when I am topping, but I can dominate in white lace too. It all depends on the dynamic.

 

30 Days of Kink: Day 27

Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?

Music can definitely play a role for me – and I have very different selections depending on whether I’m topping or bottoming.

Topping = metal, dirty Detroit-style rap, electroclash, or anything with a heavy beat.

Bottoming = softer electronica, ballads, or no music at all.

 

When it comes to role-play and kinkiness in general, sometimes I can get into character – playing roles from some of my favorite books or movies. That shouldn’t be surprising, since I am a writer after all!

 

 

30 Days of Kink: Day 26

Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?

It can be a great way to experiment (and some fantasies , but nothing compares to the real thing with someone that you’re really into and that you trust.

30 Days of Kink: Day 25

Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?

Pretty damn open – after all, if you aren’t open about your desires, how will you ever get what you want?

30 Days of Kink: Day 24

Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?

Intelligence and creativity. While there are obviously some physical qualities that I prefer in both males and females, it really is all about the mental connection.

 

 

30 Days of Kink: Day 23

Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed?  How so?

I’ve gotten much more comfortable with being a top than when I began getting kinky – which I don’t think is an unusual path. After all, experiencing things for yourself is a valuable way to understand how to take control in the future. That said, everyone’s different here – but I don’t use anything or do things to submissives that I haven’t experienced myself.

 

 

 

30 Days of Kink: Day 22

Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

In BDSM – as in all relationships, romantic or otherwise, communication is absolutely essential. I actually don’t think it is at all different from a vanilla relationship; that said, BDSM and other kinks can mean playing heavier emotions and more triggers than more…standard sexual acts (but maybe not, depending on the individual).

 

30 Days of Kink: Day 21

Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction).

For pure erotica, Carrie’s Story and the sequels are great (even though I’m not personally into pony play) – they are fairly well-written for the category. I tend to like to take BDSM ideas from more classic books though – and adapt them according to my own kinky mind.