Posts Tagged ‘experiments’


30 Days of Kink: Day 14

July 13, 2014

Day 14: How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink?  If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?

Real life is far less choreographed and stylized than porn or fantasy, but of course you already knew that. What I think most people don’t necessarily expect when they try something in real life is the emotion involved – you’re engaging in these acts with a real person(s), and your actual body is involved, which tends to set off a very different chain of feelings than simply fantasizing or watching porn.

Kink in real life can be much more humorous, playful, and relaxed as well. It doesn’t all have to be “serious business” and bitchy dommes and frowning masters (although if that’s what you’re into, that’s cool too!). And it is not always going to go according to script – and that’s cool too. In fact, improvisation can be much hotter than what you had in mind to begin with – I definitely have a few experiences along those lines that I should share with you wonderful readers soon.

That said, nothing compares to experiencing something that you think you might be into for yourself. Even if it doesn’t turn out how you expect it to be, the opportunity to actually do what you have been fantasizing about can be truly amazing – and even life-changing. Or maybe you’ll hate it and safe-word – but you’ll never know until you try it.