Archive for the ‘Quickies’ Category


30 Days of Kink: Day 29

August 3, 2014

Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, princess, goddess, ma’am, sir)?  What is your opinion of the use of titles in general?

I don’t have a particular title, although I like playing with language and names in general. It depends on the person I am with, really.



30 Days of Kink: Day 27

August 1, 2014

Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?

Music can definitely play a role for me – and I have very different selections depending on whether I’m topping or bottoming.

Topping = metal, dirty Detroit-style rap, electroclash, or anything with a heavy beat.

Bottoming = softer electronica, ballads, or no music at all.


When it comes to role-play and kinkiness in general, sometimes I can get into character – playing roles from some of my favorite books or movies. That shouldn’t be surprising, since I am a writer after all!




30 Days of Kink: Day 26

July 31, 2014

Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?

It can be a great way to experiment (and some fantasies , but nothing compares to the real thing with someone that you’re really into and that you trust.


30 Days of Kink: Day 25

July 30, 2014

Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?

Pretty damn open – after all, if you aren’t open about your desires, how will you ever get what you want?


30 Days of Kink: Day 24

July 29, 2014

Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?

Intelligence and creativity. While there are obviously some physical qualities that I prefer in both males and females, it really is all about the mental connection.




30 Days of Kink: Day 23

July 23, 2014

Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed?  How so?

I’ve gotten much more comfortable with being a top than when I began getting kinky – which I don’t think is an unusual path. After all, experiencing things for yourself is a valuable way to understand how to take control in the future. That said, everyone’s different here – but I don’t use anything or do things to submissives that I haven’t experienced myself.





30 Days of Kink: Day 22

July 21, 2014

Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

In BDSM – as in all relationships, romantic or otherwise, communication is absolutely essential. I actually don’t think it is at all different from a vanilla relationship; that said, BDSM and other kinks can mean playing heavier emotions and more triggers than more…standard sexual acts (but maybe not, depending on the individual).