30 Days of Kink: Day 23

July 23, 2014

Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed?  How so?

I’ve gotten much more comfortable with being a top than when I began getting kinky – which I don’t think is an unusual path. After all, experiencing things for yourself is a valuable way to understand how to take control in the future. That said, everyone’s different here – but I don’t use anything or do things to submissives that I haven’t experienced myself.





30 Days of Kink: Day 22

July 21, 2014

Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

In BDSM – as in all relationships, romantic or otherwise, communication is absolutely essential. I actually don’t think it is at all different from a vanilla relationship; that said, BDSM and other kinks can mean playing heavier emotions and more triggers than more…standard sexual acts (but maybe not, depending on the individual).



30 Days of Kink: Day 21

July 20, 2014

Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction).

For pure erotica, Carrie’s Story and the sequels are great (even though I’m not personally into pony play) – they are fairly well-written for the category. I tend to like to take BDSM ideas from more classic books though – and adapt them according to my own kinky mind.


30 Days of Kink: Day 20

July 18, 2014

Day 20:  Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand.

I’d like to think I’m pretty understanding in general, so I’ll talk about things I am curious about here.

*The whole Gorean philosophy of BDSM. Just…why? Are there really people who actually do this? (Note: I’m not into this personally, but I’d love to talk to people who are from a more journalistic point of view).

*Sensory deprivation combined with some kind of sexual activity (vacuum beds, etc. – which I have experienced, but I’d like to try it under different circumstances).

*A lot more role-play! I should put my performance abilities to good use, after all.






30 Days of Kink: Day 19

July 18, 2014

Day 19: Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life?  If so, what are they?

Introducing me to some wonderful friends (and no that is not a euphemism for play partners) that have become close buddies outside of the world of kink. It doesn’t always have to be about sex or sex-related activities.


30 Days of Kink: Day 18

July 17, 2014

Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves?  If so, what are they?

While I typically prefer to focus on the positive, there are a few things that do bug me.

The first one is people who touch others or intrude on scenes at play parties without permission. Yes, I know it is a party and a somewhat public space and sometimes people get out of control, but c’mon, we are all adults here. Watch from a safe distance and only get involved if directly invited.

The second (and this one is much more significant) is anyone who assumes that just because I’ve done a certain act with someone else, I’ll do it with them – especially if I’ve written about it on the interwebs.

What are your pet peeves? Feel free to unload in the comments.


30 Days of Kink: Day 17

July 16, 2014

Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?

That’s we are all punk or goth-looking, leather-wearing, tattooed freaks.

I only dress like that some of the time, people. Sometimes I look like the wholesome girl next door, sometimes a total fashion diva in stilettos and crazy makeup, or anything in between.