Archive for July, 2014


30 Days of Kink: Day 26

July 31, 2014

Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?

It can be a great way to experiment (and some fantasies , but nothing compares to the real thing with someone that you’re really into and that you trust.


30 Days of Kink: Day 25

July 30, 2014

Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?

Pretty damn open – after all, if you aren’t open about your desires, how will you ever get what you want?


30 Days of Kink: Day 24

July 29, 2014

Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?

Intelligence and creativity. While there are obviously some physical qualities that I prefer in both males and females, it really is all about the mental connection.




30 Days of Kink: Day 23

July 23, 2014

Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed?  How so?

I’ve gotten much more comfortable with being a top than when I began getting kinky – which I don’t think is an unusual path. After all, experiencing things for yourself is a valuable way to understand how to take control in the future. That said, everyone’s different here – but I don’t use anything or do things to submissives that I haven’t experienced myself.





30 Days of Kink: Day 22

July 21, 2014

Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

In BDSM – as in all relationships, romantic or otherwise, communication is absolutely essential. I actually don’t think it is at all different from a vanilla relationship; that said, BDSM and other kinks can mean playing heavier emotions and more triggers than more…standard sexual acts (but maybe not, depending on the individual).



30 Days of Kink: Day 21

July 20, 2014

Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction).

For pure erotica, Carrie’s Story and the sequels are great (even though I’m not personally into pony play) – they are fairly well-written for the category. I tend to like to take BDSM ideas from more classic books though – and adapt them according to my own kinky mind.


30 Days of Kink: Day 20

July 18, 2014

Day 20:  Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand.

I’d like to think I’m pretty understanding in general, so I’ll talk about things I am curious about here.

*The whole Gorean philosophy of BDSM. Just…why? Are there really people who actually do this? (Note: I’m not into this personally, but I’d love to talk to people who are from a more journalistic point of view).

*Sensory deprivation combined with some kind of sexual activity (vacuum beds, etc. – which I have experienced, but I’d like to try it under different circumstances).

*A lot more role-play! I should put my performance abilities to good use, after all.